Friday, June 29, 2007
A new low.
This is my wife's last day of work before holidays. She is being run out of her dream job and although we thought it already at rock bottom the evil bitch known as her supervisor continues to hit new and unheard of lows. The last many months have been made hellish by this shrew. Then her job was posted without her knowing it. The interviews were scheduled during her holidays which the shrew has known the dates of since March. Despite her being the best person for the job it has become quite clear that they have someone else already lined up. The shrew as much as told her that. Still she was encouraged to put her name forward. It should be a no brainer as she is by far the most qualified person in the province for this position. On Wednesday she e-mailed the appropriate people including the shrew reminding them that she was starting her holidays on Friday and looked forward to an interview upon her return. She has not had any response at all. Today she hears that the shrew contacted and negotiated a huge increase for a particular agency. This apparently is unheard of. The person in the shrew's position is not supposed to be doing that without the appropriate staff being involved. This is more or less how she is being told that she will not be put in the position that she has been groomed for and had a carrot dangled in front of her for over 8 years! Then this shrew comes along. It is inhuman, unconscionable and abusive behaviour. Worse they are responsible for trying to destroy my wife. Damn them. It's just not right at all and should not be tollerated. I rant here because it is not only tollerated but worse, accepted as the way it is. Unbelievable!
I hate this world!
There have been many things in the past few weeks that lead me to say "I hate this world!" No I'm not talking about war or terrorists or natural disasters. It's much more narrow minded and personal. Here is a list of things that are pissing me off:
- It was mymomzilla's 75th birthday on June 16. I had nothing to do with it and while making me angry it also made me sad that because of who she is we could not celebrate her birthday with her.
- On the day of her birthday we went to a public beach not far from here. Already feeling messed up because of her birthday (something I never expected) I sunk into a bitter place where I was simply angry about everything, especially the fact that we were sitting on a shitty man-made beach instead of in front of the beloved cottage. This of course culminated with me snapping at my wife and then both of us fighting. My bad.
- My wife is without question being railroaded out of her job. And she is being very much abused as an employee in the process. Worse is the fact that not a damn thing can be done to prevent this from happening to her. The injustice of this makes my blood boil. Can't wait for holidays.
- It was my birthday last week and other than one friend, my wife and kids and my brother the only other person to acknowledge it was, of course, mymomzilla! One piece of mail all day and it was a card from her. It sat in my office for days like a big huge fucking elephant. I debated for several days about what to do with it. Mostly I wanted to burn it. I also thought about returning it sender. Then I thought about what I could do with the gift of 50.00 that was most definitely enclosed but that cashing that cheque or returning it would acknowledge her and be feeding her supply. I also worried that it contained something other than the requisite birthday greetings. Some sort of diatribe about how evil I am nd how badly I have been treating her etc. In the end I opened, quickly read it and promptly threw it and the cheque into the garbage. All it said was HP from Your Mother and then her initials. The garbage is gone today so end of story on that one. I just wish she would just leave me alone.
- Speaking of which she phoned here yesterday. Fortunately we were not home and she left a message. She was phoning to speak with the kids. She hasn't spoken to them in many months and I was hoping she would just give up. Unfortunately that is not the case and my wife and I had a long discussion about what we were going to do with this request. We finally decided that we would put it to the kids and if they wanted to call her they could. With this decision I made it very clear to my wife that this is her one and only chance. If she gets together with them or even over the phone and makes them feel bad, cry, or bad mouths me or my wife to them it will be the last time she will see them and/or be allowed to treat them thaty way. In talking with my oldest all of that and more happened the last time they saw her. Part of me is very hesitant to even allow this one more time. If I can't handle her and her abuse why on earth would I put my kids in that kind of harms way? As my wife pointed out the only reason to consider this is because she targets people and thus far, despite the guilt trips etc. she really has not targeted them yet. Still I am resolved that if the only reason she wants to talk to or see them is to berate them for not calling or seeing her then she will not be seeing them anytime in the near or even distant future. Fuck that! They tried to call her back twice yesterday and for their own reasons chose not to leave a message. So now she is probably thinking that we the parents are forbidding them from calling. Leave it to her to go to the worst case scenario first. Cie la vie.
- We at least have our holiday to look forward to. We leave on Monday for 10 days of camping at one of our favorite places in the world. It was looking like it may not be so much fun as I was waiting for a very large cheque for some work that I had done months ago. I had to yell and scream and tell them I was going to have to cancel my family vacation if I did not get the money before hand. I finally got it yesterday but damn I hate having to chase money that is owed to me. On top of that I have had to futz with our camper all week to make sure it is in full working order. With all these additiona l amenities in our new camper comes a lot more maintenance and upkeep, not to mention many additional expenses. Another cie la vie I guess. It's the price to be paid for the luxuries offered by such a camper.
Labels:
abuse,
borderline,
mental abuse,
momzilla,
mother,
narcissistic,
personality disorder
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